Last week when I was passing at the plaza, I saw a guy “Anonymous” begging her girlfriend, the tune of the girl’s response was not friendly at all, she snoop the guy and told him “I don’t want to set my eyes on you again or it will result to something else”…..hmmmm. I went close to the guy after she left since I was curious to know what really could be the cause of her acting that way, I ask, what is wrong is she your girl. the guy replied yes. We have been dating for 5 years now, she is seeing another person I guess, he said. When he left I started wondering what is really the cause of sudden change in lovers?
Yea there are many reasons why people suddenly stop loving in a relationship, here I am going to state some of such reasons which make people who where so much in love with you started seeing you as people the cant relate anymore.
Lies: Yes I say lies, when your partner discovered that all this time you guys where in the relationship you weren’t your real self, you where just trying to framed up some lies for the girl to love you. when she realized that all you where saying was lies, no matter the amount of love she had for you she will withdraw. so always be real when approaching a new lover, she or he may love you for who you are. Not doing what you always did when you where trying to get her: A lot of guys make this mistakes a lot of times, when the try to get a new girl, they can go to mount Sanai to plug a flower, they can go to desert to fetch water, just to present to the girl to accept them. most girls will continually want you to be doing does things you did when you want them, so if you stop doing them because you have got her, she will also stop loving you sooner than you think. Pretends: most girls don’t just love a guy but the pretend to, and the guy will thing the girl is for real not knowing she may be just accepting because of pressure you put on her, or because of financial assistant…such love fade away easily. Seeing another person: Yea in life we meet new people everyday, in our work place, church, meetings, mall, eateries and the rest, if the guy that walk up to the girl is more nicer than her guy, the girl is likely to fall, note that we girls fall easily…don’t ask me why is our nature. So you girl must have true love for you and always in avoidance to prey if not you will loss her and she will suddenly stop loving you.
2. Lack of trust can cause love to fall back. 3. Financial bankrupt: A lot of people neglect this part in a relationship saying if you love someone you don’t need money from them, yes is true u won’t be requesting too much but the truth is we need money to keep the relationship going……..one partner should not be the only one providing or calling if not love will fade.
4. Low communication: if there is no proper communication in a relationship, there is bound to be sudden stop in the rate of loving, communication is the fuel to any relationship…
5. Can’t understand each other, every relationship start with lust don’t be decive but as time goes on the start developing love for each other….so if in the process you guys can’t established understanding, there will always be fight which will make one be tire of the love and fall out.
There are thousands and another reason why people who loved you, suddenly stop loving, especially in a relationship.
This even go down to marriages which has brought about a lot of broken homes today.
I want to tackle this issue first from the psychological way of loving. We need to know what love talks about first before we talk about stop loving. At times we wonder why are we feeling so crazy for some people like this, we become unusual just because we fell in love, before now people where thinking that we fall in love from our heart, you will hear lovers saying “I love you from the bottom of my heart” no
thats not true, the heart only feels the effect after the brain has release this love hormones and chemical into our body system.
The Brain Trigger love Not Heart.
When ever we see someone we like or about to fall for, the brain triggers the release of love hormones and chemicals call Adrenaline, testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin. This 7 super hormones is known for love, attraction and bonding people together.
Now when this hormones Adrenaline secret it is known as exciting hormones, you become so excited about that person, when you see them you feel like jumping up, you smile when nothing is said to you, you flourish in the love excitement.
When testosterone and estrogen releases in higher quantity the person feel more love and drive for s*x, when this happen you feel wanting the person always, you can cross 3 countries to see the person. remember our topic “why does someone who was in love suddenly stop loving”, so we will get there.
Now dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin are called body feeling good hormones, they are very good and making you want the person more, you feel everything is good about them, you feel energy in remembering them, they give you appetite to eat too and feel stong, they make you believe in the person, lets mark the work BELIEVE here, as we will used it in answering the question perfectly.
Now the work of vasopressin hormones bonding, this is always the last hormones released from the brain to turn a mere relationship to a life partner because of the bonding, it is other wise called a monogamy hormones, you want to stay with the person, you only want that person in love life.
Now why do I write all this:
After an individual has fallen for you, loved you, believe in you with the work of all this strong hormones released into his or her body, only to find out that you where just fake. Oh my God, can you see why the will stop loving. The level of all this hormones will immediately drop down, and at this point another hormones is released known as cortisol which is otherwise known as a stress hormones will be released which will cause the individual an heart acne and a condition call in medical science takotsubo cardiomyopathy, apical ballooning syndrome or stress cardiomyopathy, when this happen may be because you have bridge the trust they have for you, the feel hurt.
So this person will not want to see you any more, they will talk to you in any how manner because you have hurt their feelings, so the person will suddenly stop loving you because the believe and trust they had on you as been bridge.
So my dear friend check where you are wrong too before you start putting blames on the person alone.
Secondly if they have find someone else who the feel is more nicer than you, they will stop loving you.
Also some girls just discover that the relationship they are with a guy is heading to no where, 6 years 7 or 8 years in a relationship yet no marriage plan, they are aging so they have to find someone else more serious to settle down.