- KISS YOUR SPOUSE OFTEN
A kiss on the lips says more than words can tell. Often, when a couple has been together for long, they don’t kiss as much, don’t kiss for long, don’t kiss as sweet; but this shouldn’t be the case… Kiss when you’re bored, kiss when you’re hurting, kiss when you are happy, kiss when you are aroused, kiss for no reason at all. But don’t just kiss, kiss with passion, kiss with love, be a good kisser.
INTRODUCE YOUR PARTNER/SPOUSE BY THE POSITION HE/SHE HOLDS
When you introduce your partner/spouse to people, let people know how special your he/she is to you. Say “This is my woman/ man/ wife/ husband/ fiance”
- LEARN TO LOOK AT YOUR PARTNER/SPOUSE WHEN HE/SHE IS TALKING
Eye contact is important. Unless it is impossible at the moment, look at your partner/spouse when he/ she is talking; don’t have a conversation while you are reading the newspaper, watching a TV program, or playing a game. What people say is more than the words they speak, it’s also their facial expression as they speak. Pay attention, show interest.
- MAKE RANDOM PHONE CALLS AND CHATS
Don’t just call your partner/spouse when you need something done. Don’t reduce your partner/spouse to someone you give orders to. Call your partner/spouse, chat because you love conversing with your him/her. Keep the communication warm and flowing.
- USE THE SENSE OF TOUCH
Hold your partner/spouse’s hand in private, even in public if that’s your thing. Squeeze your his/her hand when he/she is scared, rub your partner/spouse’s hand or shoulder saying “It will be Ok”, massage, hold the waist. Too many couples under use the power of touch.
- PRAY FOR HIM/HER
We all feel safe and cared for having a partner/spouse who prays for us. Don’t just tell your partner/spouse, “I pray for you” or “I will pray for you”; from time to time, let your partner/spouse hear you praying for him/her.
- SAY “I LOVE YOU” OFTEN
Don’t wait for special occasions or tragedies to force you to say “I love you”. Say it because you mean it. Yes, your partner/spouse knows you love him/ her but still say it, people love to be assured. Don’t wait for your partner/spouse to be hospitalised or when things are shaky for you to bring out those words from the shelf you hid them in. But out of the blue, call your partner/spouse by the name and say “I love you!”
- ASK FOR HIS/HER OPINION
Even when you’ve already made your decision, ask for your partner/spouse’s opinion, it makes him/ her feel accommodated and involved, it makes him/her feel like a life partner not a life escort.
- GIVE COMPLIMENTS
Don’t be stingy with your praise. When your partner/spouse does you good, makes progress, looks good, smells good; appreciate and celebrate that.
Don’t become too familiar with your partner/spouse that an apology becomes hard to come by. Some are quick to apologize to other people but not to their partner/spouse because they are taking him/her for granted, knowing whatever they do, their partner/spouse is not going anywhere. Say sorry when you do wrong, small or big, and make up for it. Make your partner/spouse find it easy to forgive you.