He had a knock on his door that morning, he opened. The visitor walked in. The visitor was his Best Man, the one who stood by him the day of his wedding.
“Hey bro” The Best Man walked in the house.
“Come in, sorry the house is small and a mess. I couldn’t find time to clean up by the time I got your phone call saying that you’re coming” the Man of the house told his Best Man.
The Best Man looked for space on the sofa in the house. The sofa was full of clothes, two loaves of bread and six bananas.
The Best Man saw a pornographic DVD on the table. The Man of the house hid the DVD, but it was too late, the Best Man had already seen it.
“I was told you want a divorce?” the Best Man asked
The Man of the house nodded in agreement as he sat on a wooden stool.
“Are you happy being away from your wife?” The Best Man asked.
“Bro, I already asked her for a divorce, I can’t go back against what I asked” the Man of the house said.
“Why do you want a divorce?” The Best Man continue to question.
“I can’t stand her. She has become so toxic. She uses the children against me, disrespects me, tellling me how I am not doing enough, she is stressed up at work and brings stress at home, she is no longer sexy or interested in sex, I find myself staring and flirting with other women. Twice, I almost had an affair but I chose not to. I had started despising being in the same house with her, that’s why I used to come home late. That is not marriage. Why stay in an unhappy marriage? So I asked her for a divorce and moved out to this small house as I start my new life” he answered.
“Are you happy bro? Are you happy here?” The Best Man asked.
The Man of the house didn’t answer.
“So, what next now? Will you start dating again, get another woman?” The Best Man asked
“Well, that’s a possibility. I am still young. I can charm a woman, I have needs you know” he responded.
“You are a father bro. Your children are with your wife, she is still your wife, no divorce has happened. Why are you demoting yourself to become a Bachelor once again yet you left the Bachelor life about seven years ago. Was it seven years?” said the Best Man…
“Yes, seven years of marriage” the Man of the house answered
“Seven years of marriage and you are willing to throw it away for this? For Bachelorhood away from your children?” The Best Man proded further.
“Hey, I will be sending money for the children’s needs and seeing them time to time” the Man of the house said
The Best Man leaned forward on the sofa and said, “Is that how you want to do parenting? Really? Let me ask, when you got married, your wife was great, she was wonderful, you praised her; right? Remember how you told me you are going to marry her and wanted me to be your Best Man? What changed? All those reasons you told me for wanting a divorce, did you talk with her about them?”
“Yes I did, several times” the Man of the house replied
“According to her, you didn’t talk with her about them, you talked at her, you talked down at her. You shouted at her, you refused to take correction. I am not saying she has no blame, I am saying both of you are to blame. You changed her by how you didn’t love her properly, and she changed you to become the man who hates his marriage. Both of you are fighting each other and destroying what you have built for years. If you call it quits and she calls it quits, all you have invested in dies.” said the Best Man…
“Suppose you date another woman, and you get married again; that new marriage will get to this point too. Every marriage starts sweet, but a few years in marriage comes the test season where the issues of life will weigh in on the marriage. This is a season every marriage goes through, but the season doesn’t last long. Any marriage that holds and navigates through this temporary season well, that marriage will last forever. Sadly, this is the season where many have extra-marital affairs, they give up, they burn their own house. This is the season to understand each other, to love even when you don’t feel like it because eventually you will feel love again. This is the season to say I am sorry more, to hear each other out, to pray, to keep reminding yourselves of your vows. Once this season ends and you are still one as husband and wife, that is when the deeper and more mature sweetness of marriage begins; when you can look at the eyes of the spouse who had every reason to walk out but stuck with you, when you hold the hand of the spouse who has stood with you through thick and thin. Stay in your marriage and you will not live to regret it” the Best Man said further.
“But bro, I already asked for a divorce” said the Man of the house..
The Best Man leaned closer and said, “Your pride will ruin you. Come on bro, will you follow through with a foolish decision you made out of anger and frustration just because you want to show you are a man and what you say is final? The only words that should be final should be your marriage vows. Your vows you said when in your right mind, you were relaxed, you were guided by God, hope and love. Any words you speak in anger or desperation you can say you didn’t mean them. You sought after me to stand by you as your Best Man for your marriage, but you didn’t sought after me when you choose to end this marriage because you know your choice of divorce is being made out of selfishness, fear and weakness. You can’t keep running away from marriage or looking at other options outside every time things get tough. Man up”
The Man of the house stood up and started pacing about.
“The problem with us men is that we let pride get in the way. We mess up but fail to own up. We claim to be strong but become cowards in standing up for the marriages we started. I almost made the foolish decision of walking out of my marriage but I stayed; and now, my wife and I are in such a good place. A place I’d wish every married couple would get to. Marriage is possible, love exists bro. You won’t experience the power of love if you don’t tone down your ego and work on love. Your harsh words and don’t care attitude contributed to your wife changing for the worse; your love for her will bring back the wife she used to be. There are things she complains to you about, listen to her, change, do what she asks; she is the mother of your children, your wife. The things you want her to do or change, request them with love and with a smile. Love her and she will love you back” the Best Man spoke
The Man of the house looked at the Best Man
The Best Man stood up and placed his hand on the shoulder of the Man of the house telling him, “This is your marriage, save it. Go to your wife and tell her you will fight for your marriage. Leave this place, go home. You don’t need porn when your wife at home is ready to make love to you as you both work on your marriage”.
“I need to find my wife” said the Man of the house.
“No need to look for her, she is here. Your wife is outside at the parking with my wife. I came to talk to you, and my wife who was the Best Maid at your wedding went to talk to your wife. Your wife said she really wants to make marriage work, she is scared of losing you, she doesn’t know what to do. Let me call her to come see you” the Best Man made the phone call.
Three and a half minutes later, the Man of the house opened the door and his wife walked in. The husband and wife looked at each other for some seconds in silence then hugged tightly.
“I love you” the Man of the house told his wife
“I don’t wan’t a divorce; I want you, I need you” the Man of the house added.
The wife cried on his shoulders “I don’t know what I am doing wrong, I am sorry I keep messing up and.”
The Man of the house placed his finger on her lips “Shh, we both mess up. We will make us work. Your husband is back”
The Best Man walked closer to the door and said, “Well bro, you have your wife, let me go to mine. My wife and I will be at your house looking after your children. So take all the time you need to talk things out”
A marriage has been saved.
**Don’t Just Know**