He got home early that day.
He found his wife home already.
She was sitting down on the carpet playing with their four old child.
He knelt down and stared at her.
“I love you” he said.
“Are you OK?” She asked.
“Shh.. Give me this moment. Allow me to say something” he told her.
He sat next to her as their child continued playing.
“Sometimes a man can have a treasure and not know how blessed he is. I don’t want to be that man. Today, I had a huge revelation” said he.
She looked at him nodding in silence with a smile.
“I overheard people talking about you at the Supermarket. You are admired by so many people. I eavesdropped and heard the wonderful things they said about you. One of those talking was a man who said how lucky I am. They never saw me though”
He kissed her shoulder.
“As I pulled my shopping to the car, I saw a couple fighting. The lady was so disrespectful to the man. The poor man was hurled at insults as he tried so hard not to make a scene. I thought to myself, my wife would never do that. You respect me and you handle me with maturity” he continued.
She hugged him.
“I see how we are and how people admire us. People speak highly of us. We have wonderful photos of ourselves on social media. I asked myself, that is what people think of us, they think our marriage is good; but how is our marriage offline, away from the public? Far too many marriages are a beautiful mask rotting inside.
Married people can easily be the best actors. So many pretend to be happy. The pressure of society to project all is well in marriage leads many marriages to not deal with their issues. People pretend in public then go back to emptiness at home. Behind walls, so many married people are hurting.
There is a competition to post wonderful photos on Facebook of a happy life but in real life, many of those happy marriages online are dying and struggling offline.
Look at us, our Facebook walls are full of photos of us but it has been a long time since we took a family photo to hang on the walls of our home. Our home has no photo of our four year old child” he said.
“As I was driving home, I asked myself what kind of husband am I offline? The public speaks highly of me, but what about you, the one who lives with me. So many men use their marriage for social status, it makes them feel good to appear married in society but they treat their wives like crap. Honey, you are the best person to say what kind of a husband I am. So, who am I offline?”
“Now may I speak?” She said teasing him.
“Oh yes yes” he confirmed.
“First of all, I love you” said she, then she kissed his lips.
“You are an amazing husband. I love how you love me online and offline. A woman loves public and private love. You are hardworking, humble, teachable, affectionate, romantic, sexy, thoughtful, kind, wise, reliable, admirable and nicely stubborn. As those people spoke highly of me, I speak highly of you with even better understanding. I am genuinely happy in our marriage, whatever good thing I post about you online, I mean it. I am proud to be your Mrs and that isn’t and should be a secret. I have one suggestion though”
“Which one?” She asked.
“Be telling me I love you more often. It makes me excited. I know you love me with deeds but love me with words too. Don’t wait for a revelation to tell me. Please don’t be those men who struggle to tell the wives whom they claim to love the words I love you” she requested.
“I love you” he said.
“I love you too” she told him.
“You’ll be hearing more of that my love, online and offline” said he.
“Awesome. Love on me hun. Love on me” said she.
“You know of a good photographer? We do fresh family photos for our home?” He asked.
“We can search for one online, I have heard of one called Ben something…” She said picking up her phone.
He said, “I love you my online and offline Queen. May our offline love grow deeper as I search for more of your beauty away from the public”
How do you treat your spouse in private?
**Don’t Just Know**